Schizophrenic Behavior by Parents Which Confuses Children Whose Parents Are in the Process of Divorce

Parents who act crazy, by separating and getting back together, and not seem to be able to make up their minds what to do about their relationship, causes problems for their children. This behavior is classified as "ambivalent divorce."


In this situation, the children go on an emotional roller coaster ride; while their parents go through what is classified by layman's terms, crazy behavior. The uncertainty of this situation is; when the parents separate, their children go through a period or sadness which makes them thinks their parents are getting a divorce. The flip side to this is; they get back together, and the children are happy, only for them to separate again, and the cycle continues.
Parents who behave this way should expect their children will have trouble forming wholesome and lasting relationships. They design every relationship they have, from the road map of relationships they have experienced from their parents. They can become suicidal, juvenile delinquents, severely depressed, confused, even design their own lives, if they ever get married, to be just like their parents' schizophrenic relationships, and it becomes a generational pattern. Their children's children will live their lives along the same path because it is the only life they know. It is like an abusive father who passes on his abusive behavior to his children, and they in turn become abusive fathers also.

Parents need to be extremely careful what examples they set for their children as it is going to affect and determine the kind of life they have for the future. Families that have an insight in what is happening, must speak up, and help these persons to get help as it will be detrimental to the future generation. No matter how much the situation is covered up, it will become too saturated within the family to break the cycle.
Divorce my ultimately be the result, but the damage to these impressionable minds has already been done, and unless they are helped through therapy and counseling, their lives will go down a painful path. These children will never be able to be happy or have lasting or meaningful relationships. Society has gotten into this mold of; if the situation is not perfect, then divorce is the answer. No one is willing to work, at their relationships, to make it work. These are the messages that our children are getting about marriage, and then the extreme is true, so the cycle continues into another generation.